I imagine life is a river.
Wait, wait, hear me out. I know this is a totally original, never-before-stated concept, but I promise if you just keep reading it will start to make sense. Life isn’t an actual river. You’re not swimming right now. Relax. Sometimes metaphors are hard, and since this one is totally new and, like I said, original, I’m sure it will take some getting used to.
Okay, so. Life is a river.
You are in a boat as you venture through life, floating down this river. The river is extremely wide and unending, but it is filled with obstacles. Rocks jutting up from the depths, branches floating broadside, all manner of terrifying creatures and monsters that lurk under the boat.
But generally it’s a calm river.
Along with all the aforementioned obstacles, the river is also filled with…debris. Stuff. All shapes and sizes, all colors and textures. Not dangerous stuff, per se. Just…stuff.
It floats along next to you, close enough that you can reach out and grab it if you want.
And you do, because you do want. The things, some of them, are shiny. Or they’re pretty. Or they seem valuable.
They can look any way you imagine, but when you see them floating along by your boat you know you must have them.
So you reach down, over the side of the boat, and you pick one thing up. You examine it. It’s beautiful. It’s perfect. It’s what you’ve always wanted.
You sit with it in your boat for a long while, filled with a happiness you didn’t know you could feel.
And then you spot another thing! It’s a little ways away, over there, but luckily you spotted it in time that you can steer your boat towards it. You intercept the thing, scooping it up out of the water easily as you pass by.
It’s different from the last thing. Not better or worse, just different. You put it on the floor of the boat between your legs, with the first thing. No sooner do you do that than you see yet another interesting thing on the horizon. You steer yourself towards it with relative ease, and now you’ve got three different, equally-cool things in your boat.
The next day, the first thing you spot is another thing just like the first one. It’s close by. You scoop it up and add it to the collection. Soon after, another thing, like the second one.
You add it, too.
Then another one like the third thing. It joins the rest.
You’re finding that the feeling of happiness you had is now more than that; it’s beyond just pleasure. This is a purpose. You must find more of all of these things!
You start scanning the horizon all day long, day in and day out, watching for more of them. After a few days, you’ve collected five more things, a few from each category. You spend your nights admiring your collection, and your days searching for more.
A couple of days go by without finding any more of the things you’ve been collecting. You start to wonder if you got all of them. Suddenly another thing catches your eye. It’s different than the others, and you haul it in.
It’s also very cool. Suddenly that feeling of worry you had just been experiencing has been replaced with newfound joy.
A new project! More things to collect!
Now you have four different kinds of things you’re on the lookout for. Within a couple of days your collection has grown wildly. Your boat is almost overflowing. What’s more, you have added more categories to your collection still. Every time you are looking for one of the things you already have, you find another cool thing!
This is bliss! You are finding so many cool things!
By now you have taken to sitting atop your pile of things, because it’s too tall to see over. You perch up there and look down at the river around you, carefully spying to find more of your precious items.
You see one off in the distance. It’s far, but you think you can make it.
You spend a minute carefully climbing down the pile, back to the aft of the boat where the rudder is. Finally there, you push the handle and the rudder turns…but the boat barely moves.
You try the other way, and the boat rocks a bit but still maintains its straight course.
It only takes you a moment to realize what’s wrong: The boat is too heavy. The weight of the pile, your excellent collection, is too much. It’s now that you realize the water line next to the boat is quite high. The boat is riding very dangerously low. Unable to steer very well, you watch helplessly as the cool thing you were going to get drifts by you and into oblivion.
You look at the giant pile and wonder what can be done.
While you wonder, you climb back up to the top to sit and wait. Surely another neat thing will come by, and the next one will be closer to you. You just have to accept that the things that are far away are too difficult to get to now. It’s the price of having such an amazing collection.
As you’re looking straight ahead, fixing your field of view only on the objects that your boat will directly intercept, you spot dark shape in the water. At first you think it’s some kind of interesting object, and you wonder if you could scoop it up.
But then you realize that’s not an option. It’s a rock, jagged and menacing, piercing up through the tranquil surface.
And it’s growing ever closer and closer.
Without being able to steer, you will have no choice but to collide with it.
Now you realize that something must be done, and it must be done immediately.
You have to pare down your collection. You have to make the boat light enough to steer.
But how much weight will you have to get rid of? And, more importantly, which things do you toss overboard? What items in your collection are you willing to part with?
You frantically start digging through the pile. You pick up the first item your hand grabs, and you look at it. You remember where you got it. You had so many plans for it. It’s such a cool thing! You can’t get rid of it just yet.
You set it aside and keep going. Surely you’ll find some things that aren’t important enough to keep.
You’re still digging through the pile when the prow of your boat splinters against the unyielding rock. You tumble down off the pile, landing on the rock with a painful crack of bone.
Conscious but in pain, you helplessly look up as the boat sinks before you…and with it, your precious collection, which disperses into the water and vanishes into a thousand pieces.
You are on the rock alone, and this is where you will die.
Kind of a bummer ending. Sorry about that. The good news is, it’s a metaphorical rock, and a metaphorical death.
And you can avoid it by paying attention to what you put into your boat. Control your impulses, and you will be able to control your vessel.
That’s what VulcanBuddha is all about. An impulse is nothing but a thought wrapped in an emotion. Your impulse to eat ice cream isn’t your body telling you it needs dairy. Sorry.
It’s your subconscious telling you that you’ll be happier, if only for a moment, if you eat the ice cream; It’s telling you that you deserve the ice cream because you’ve been working really hard; It’s telling you that it’s not unhealthy for you to eat the ice cream, because you’re special.
It’s a thought (I want ice cream), wrapped in an emotion (I deserve ice cream).
Or maybe it’s an emotion wrapped in a thought.
Either way, if you are the kind of person who–when you’re not around ice cream or craving ice cream–doesn’t want to eat ice cream anymore, then you owe it to yourself to learn to recognize that emotional thought–a.k.a. impulse–and let it float by.
This goes for buying sports cars as much as watching YouTube videos as much as messaging that girl at 3 a.m. who you just met. It’s all about impulse management.
Your Past Self has made an agreement to become your Future Self, but the only one standing in the way is your Present Self.
Listen to your Past Self, not your Present Self, because your Present Self is notoriously fickle.
Don’t let him put stuff in the boat.