Letting go of your thoughts can become a lot of fun, and a great relief. Often I’ll find myself suddenly getting wrapped up in a thought–maybe something stressful, maybe something obsessive, just something that I can feel eating up all my mental computing power–and then it occurs to me, like the clouds parting to reveal the sun, that I can just stop. I don’t have to hold onto those thoughts.
And suddenly they are gone. They hold no power. And I feel like I can breathe again.
It’s like using a muscle that I’m not used to having. Imagine spending your whole life locked in a room, just wandering around, until you realize that the one rectangular part on the wall is actually what’s called a “door,” and you can just open it and walk out anytime you want. Suddenly a whole new part of the world is revealed to you! But sometimes as you’re wandering around you find yourself stuck in a room again, and it takes you a while to remember that you can open the door.
That sense of relief you would feel suddenly remembering what you already learned about opening doors would hit you like a wave. That’s how it feels when I remember that I can let my thoughts go.
The goal, of course, is to someday never get stuck in any rooms–but that’s not realistic. The human mind is always finding itself stuck, that’s just its nature. But it’s also within the nature of the mind to find the doors and let itself out. Eventually, after you do it enough, you recognize the doors more and more quickly, and you spend less and less time stuck in rooms.
Naturally there are some thoughts that are easier to let go of than others. Thoughts that are laced heavily with emotion are the hardest, no matter if they’re happy thoughts or sad ones or angry ones. (I personally find particularly difficult are the thoughts laced with a certain mix of hurt and anger. If I feel like I’ve been unfairly rebuffed or I’m being ignored, it’s very hard for me to really get my mind to move on.)
What are some of the thoughts and emotions that you have a harder time letting go of? What are the easiest ones?